ANNA BLUNDY

When Something Ain’t Right It’s Wrong

23rd November 2009 | 1 comments | 2 people like this

A friend of mine is staying. She has just come out of the vilest relationship the world has ever known with a horribly abusive creep who has dominated her life for years in the most negative imaginable way.  Yesterday she and I made steak and kidney pie and cheesecake and my daughter beat the egg whites into soft peaks. The fire crackled. It’s easy to think people should just leave...

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Emotional Abuse Sends You Mad

10th September 2009 | 7 comments | 0 votes yet, click here to agree or disagree

Nostalgia for the distant past annoys me.  Whenever I catch myself reading something about a pre-electricity age when the only sounds were birdsong and conversation, when everyone knew everyone and we all had a marvellous symbiotic relationship with the world around us, I remind myself that I am female. As someone who had two emergency caesareans I am evolutionary garbage – only about 70 years ago I would have died...

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Eating disorders are all symptoms of a wider sickness- misogyny

9th July 2009 | 0 comments | 0 votes yet, click here to agree or disagree

Given that I am up this mountain with not a whole hell of a lot to do most of the time, I find myself glued to the tabloids online and I now know far more than any human being ought to know about Jordan and Peter, for example. I am trying very hard to be on her side (since, clearly, we are supposed to have a side) because she is...

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Men don’t like wonderful women

29th June 2009 | 5 comments | 0 votes yet, click here to agree or disagree

A friend of mine got toasted the other day. The relationship had really been over for years but she had managed to delude herself that although this very boring guy seemed not to want to spend much time with her and did a lot of going to strip clubs and scuba diving with mates he really loved her. It is always very hard to believe that someone who claims to...

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Domestic Violence isn’t love, it’s hate (and a tomato salad)

1st June 2009 | 3 comments | 0 votes yet, click here to agree or disagree

My husband thinks you are cretins. He wrote me a skype message (instead of coming downstairs) telling me that he loves me even if I think it’s meaningless and even if I tell the details of his life to everyone who reads my blog and my column in the Saturday Times. Well, he didn’t say ‘everyone’. He said ‘all the cretins.’ Obviously, it’s me he’s cross with, not you three....

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Anna Blundy: Do you love me?

26th May 2009 | 1 comments | 0 votes yet, click here to agree or disagree

A good friend of mine recently suffered mistress meltdown. All his girlfriends met up by (he claimed) accident and one thing led to another. He is now single. Even his wife(fair enough)  kicked him out.

I am gripped by other people’s problems, presumably so that my own seem more mundane, and I dragged information past his defensive smirk.
‘But did you tell her you loved her?’ I asked, almost genuinely feeling that...

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